Monday, July 30, 2012


Pastor Gene A. Dasher, Sr.

By Doug Fields

My son borrowed this from his Aunt Gerri Rominger which is my sister-in-law and I thought sharing it would be a blessing to you today. My son says

“This is good. I share his quick wit and propensity for sarcasm and struggle to rein it in at times. Maybe someone else can relate to this so I'm sharing.” Gene Dasher Jr.

The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. Proverbs 12:18 KJV
 There is that speaketh like the piercings of a sword: but the tongue of the wise is health. NIV
Some people make cutting remarks, but the words of the wise bring healing. NLT

Don't Say Everything You Think!
By Doug Fields

Not long ago, I was around thousands of people in different environments, watching a multi-day volleyball tournament and visiting attractions and theme parks. I’m a people-watcher by nature, and having the opportunity to sit closely with people, wait in lines, and gather in crowds, I had lots of time to observe others.

Boiling down my observations into two categories, here’s what I most noticed:

1) Spouses saying unkind things to one another, and
2) Parents verbally belittling their children.

I’m sure these observations don’t reveal anything new or surprising, but they occurred so frequently that I couldn’t escape noticing. People can be quite nasty to one another.

Since it doesn’t take intelligence to be critical, let me suggest one relational principle that has helped me. I realize that this is easier said than done, but it is as simple as this: Don’t say everything you think!

I realize that holding your tongue takes self-control and a degree of humility, but the results are amazing! When someone triggers an emotion in you and you want to react with a verbal dagger…don’t. When someone injures your pride and you want to say something that will be a zinger comeback and put the other person in his or her place…don’t. When someone exhausts your patience and a strong reaction will make you feel better…don’t.

I have a quick wit and a propensity for sarcasm, and with this amazing combination of skills, I create some really strong statements…that no one hears but me. Why? Because as a spouse and parent, I’ve learned that I don’t need to say everything that I think. When I slip up and allow the statements to escape my mouth, I end up wounding others, triggering more reactions, demeaning those I love, heightening tension levels, and create negative memories.

Words are always powerful. But misguided words hurt, and they hurt deeply. As today’s Scripture points out, using reckless words is like stabbing another with a sword. In almost every instance, it’s best to keep the sword in its scabbard.

Try this today: Don’t say everything you think! Just because you think it, doesn’t mean you have to say it. Not all words must be spoken

“If we confess our sins he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” 1John 1:9
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